Nothing like a really good date!

Good dates are a scarcity in this day and age, the supply never manages to meet the demand ,because I feel that if it did we'd all be married by now. But once in a blue moon you meet someone who just floats your boat. I recently went out on a really good date and I wanted to write about what made it so good.

First of all, the man takes charge. He says he'll pick you up at 7 and the rest is up to him. I even like it when he pick you up and doesn't tell you where he's taking you right away. I love that feeling of suspense when only he knows and you're left guessing. It's so....masculine! Then on the opposite extreme there's the guy who calls and  starts with "so what do you want to do? I don't know what there is to do in your area, why don't you pick something?" There's no excuse for not being about to do a little research for a first date.

Next, he looks presentable. He doesn't have to look like Dr. McSteamy ( if he does,though, please make an extra effort to like him or I will!), but as long as he's showered, smells nice, pants are ironed, shirt is tucked in and hair is combed (if he's lucky to still have any) then he's going to come off as somewhat attractive.

The third thing that makes a good date is when he is really interested in getting to know you. That my friends, is the ultimate turn on. When he asks you real menaningful questions to get to know who you are as an individual, instead of the usual 'where are you from? how many siblings do you have?  what do your parents do? what do you for shabbos?' routine it just makes the date so much more interesting. It also allows you to get past all the annoying small talk that makes first dates feel like you don't even have to be there; a recording of your life story would have done the job.

Making you feel that money isn't an issue is another quality of a good dater. A guy who makes you feel comfortable enough that you'd order what you wanted to eat without feeling qualms about the price knows how to treat a lady. That doesn't mean you're allowed to take advantage, of course, but no woman should go hungry on a date just because the guy doesn't want to spend any money.

A man should be chivalrous. Ladies first is not just for Disney Princess movies. Guys: open doors for us, offer to carry our bag, let us choose where we want to sit, watch to make sure we get into our house at night, arive on time, don't leave us hanging after a date. These are all really simple things that you can do to boost our opinion of you.

I'm sure there are lots of other things that people find works for them on a date, like with me, if a guy thinks I'm funny, that'll really do it for me. But personally, I think that these are the 5 foundations of dating that are so basic to taking a lady out on a date, but that guys these days just don't seem to be aware of. Why? That remains a mystery. Maybe no one taught them. Maybe they're so burnt out that they just don't care anymore- which still isn't an excuse- you never know who the right one is so it pays to make an effort. And that's the moral of the story. Be nice, make a good impression. Even if she's not the one, you'll still end the evening with a girl who thinks you know how to be a gentleman- and if you really knew women, you'd know that that's no small feat to accomplish.